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Title:
Women rowing north : navigating life's currents and flourishing as we age
ISBN:
9781632869609
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Publication Information:
New York, NY : Bloomsbury Publishing, 2019.
Physical Description:
262 pages ; 25 cm
General Note:
Includes index.
Summary:
"Women growing older contend with ageism, misogyny, and loss. Yet as Mary Pipher shows, most older women are deeply happy and filled with gratitude for the gifts of life. Their struggles help them grow into the authentic, empathetic, and wise people they have always wanted to be. In Women Rowing North, Pipher offers a timely examination of the cultural and developmental issues women face as they age. Drawing on her own experience as daughter, sister, mother, grandmother, caregiver, clinical psychologist, and cultural anthropologist, she explores ways women can cultivate resilient responses to the challenges they face. "If we can keep our wits about us, think clearly, and manage our emotions skillfully," Pipher writes, "we will experience a joyous time of our lives. If we have planned carefully and packed properly, if we have good maps and guides, the journey can be transcendent.""--Dust jacket.
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New York Times Bestseller * USA Today Bestseller * Los Angeles Times Bestseller * Publishers Weekly Bestseller

The instant bestseller from the author of Reviving Ophelia-- a guide to wisdom, authenticity, and bliss for women as they age.

Women growing older contend with ageism, misogyny, and loss. Yet as Mary Pipher shows, most older women are deeply happy and filled with gratitude for the gifts of life. Their struggles help them grow into the authentic, empathetic, and wise people they have always wanted to be.

In Women Rowing North , Pipher offers a timely examination of the cultural and developmental issues women face as they age. Drawing on her own experience as daughter, sister, mother, grandmother, caregiver, clinical psychologist, and cultural anthropologist, she explores ways women can cultivate resilient responses to the challenges they face. "If we can keep our wits about us, think clearly, and manage our emotions skillfully," Pipher writes, "we will experience a joyous time of our lives. If we have planned carefully and packed properly, if we have good maps and guides, the journey can be transcendent."


Author Notes

Mary Pipher is a psychologist specializing in women, trauma, and the effects of our culture on mental health, which has earned her the title of "cultural therapist" for her generation. She is the author of several New York Times bestsellers, including Reviving Ophelia , The Shelter of Each Other , and Another Country . She lives in Lincoln, Nebraska.


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Publisher's Weekly Review

Pipher (The Green Boat), best known for challenging the cultural perspective on teenage girls in 1994's bestselling Reviving Ophelia, brings her professional skill as a cultural anthropologist and her personal experience as a woman transitioning from middle age to old age to a work chock-full of wisdom and consoling messages. Attentive to varying experiences of class, race, gender, health, and marital status, even as she considers the deep "challenges of aging, including ageism and lookism, caregiving, loss, and loneliness," Pipher offers practical, specific advice. This includes walking readers through "deep breathing and centering exercises," grandparenting "intentionally," and dealing with end-of-life care. She pays particular attention to the importance of finding community, warning against the trap of becoming isolated, and rattling off a multitude of suggestions-readers could join a book group, "learn to kayak" (per the title), or "volunteer to teach English to refugees." While a must-read for its target audience of women moving into old age, Pipher's engaging book is an ought-to-read for their daughters and sons as well, as it sets forth the universal message that "happiness is a choice and a set of skills." Agent: Susan Lee Cohen, Riverside Literary Agency. (Jan.) © Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.


Booklist Review

Pipher, author of the classic Reviving Ophelia (1994), an analysis of teenage girls in the 1990s, turns her attention to women transitioning from middle to old age in her latest project. These women, who have spent their lives juggling careers and families, are now facing different challenges, including surviving health crises, adapting to changing bodies, searching for meaning in retirement, and maintaining a sense of self. Pipher contends that unless women make the effort to grow, they will be left with bitterness. She begins by examining the issues of loss, loneliness, caregiving, and ageism. In the subsequent section, Pipher suggests skills that will help women navigate these troubles, from seeking to truly understand themselves to revising life narratives to focusing on gratitude. She urges readers to form meaningful relationships with family and friends and to fight isolation by intentionally interacting with others. Pipher shares examples from many lives, including her own, but focuses in particular on four women who illustrate these important life lessons. This positive, affirming book will inspire and guide women facing these challenges.--Candace Smith Copyright 2018 Booklist


Library Journal Review

Pipher entered the national psychological/literary stage with 1994's Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls, which addressed how teen girls, deluged with images of beauty and sexuality and societal demands, fall into depression, eating disorders, and low self-esteem. Now, after several other books, the renowned psychologist turns to the subject of older women to help navigate the muddy and turbulent waters of aging. Her message is uplifting and calming: now is the time of authenticity, gratitude, and adapting-to anything. Pipher's skill of listening to clients and parsing meaning is evident in this volume filled with stories of women in the throes of change. She advises altering ways of thinking and behaving as we age, as we are no longer just older versions of our younger selves. But hers is not a one-solution-fits-all, as she urges readers to make a difference and take it easy, to know boundaries and offer wisdom, to understand what to accept and what demands our flexibility. VERDICT Pipher's tribute to older women everywhere-those skilled, knowledgable, and very wise-is simple: get involved, sit back, enjoy your life, be grateful, cherish every day. You've earned your happiness. [See "Editors' Fall Picks," LJ 8/18.]-Linda Beck, Indian Valley P.L., Telford, PA © Copyright 2018. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.


Table of Contents

Introductionp. 1
I Challenges of the Journey
1 A New Stretch of the Riverp. 14
2 The Lay of the Landp. 26
3 The Worn Bodyp. 37
4 Intensity and Poignancyp. 53
5 Caregivingp. 60
6 Swept Awayp. 69
7 Loneliness and Solitudep. 83
II Travel Skills
8 Understanding Ourselvesp. 98
9 Making Intentional Choicesp. 109
10 Building a Good Dayp. 122
11 Creating Communityp. 135
12 Crafting Resplendent Narrativesp. 147
13 Anchoring in Gratitudep. 160
III The People on the Boat
14 Travel Companionsp. 174
15 Co-Captainsp. 184
16 The Lifeboat of Familyp. 195
17 Grandchildrenp. 206
IV The Northern Lights
18 Moon River: Authenticity and Self-Acceptancep. 220
19 The Long Viewp. 231
20 Everything Is Illuminatedp. 241
Acknowledgmentsp. 252
Indexp. 253