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Shameless : a sexual reformation
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First Edition.
Publication Information:
New York : Convergent, [2019]
Physical Description:
viii, 200 pages : illustrations ; 22 cm
Sanctus -- Build-a-bear -- This shit is free -- Double-stranded helix -- Holy resistance -- The rocking chair -- The fireplace -- I smell sex and candy -- Terminal agitation -- There is also magic -- Hi, my name is -- Benediction.
"Nothing gives church folk anxiety quite like the subject of sex. And that's why in Shameless, Pastor Nadia sets out to reclaim the conversation for a new generation. In the spirit of Martin Luther, Bolz-Weber calls for a reformation of the way believers understand and express their sexuality. To make her case, Bolz-Weber draws on experiences from her own life as well as her parishoners', then puts them side by side with biblical narrative and theology to explore what the church has taught and about sex, and the harm that has often come as a result. Along the way, Bolz-Weber reexamines patriarchy, gender, and sexual orientation with candor but also with hope--because, as she writes, "I believe that the Gospel can heal the pain that even the church has caused." As with her previous books, Bolz-Weber offers an honest, affirming and intellectually robust experience on the pages that speak to skeptic and believer alike"-- Provided by publisher.


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Book 261.835 Bolz
Book 261.835 Bolz
Book 261.835 Bolz
Book 261.835 Bolz
Book 261.835 Bolz
Book 261.835 BOLZ

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Raw, intimate, and timely, Nadia Bolz-Weber's latest book offers a full-blown overhaul of our harmful and antiquated ideas about sex, gender, and our bodies.

Christians are obsessed with sex. But not in a good way. For generations countless people have suffered pain, guilt, and judgment as a result of this toxic fixation on sex, the body, and physical pleasure. In the follow-up to her celebrated New York Times bestseller Accidental Saints , Bolz-Weber unleashes her critical eye, her sharp pen, and her vulnerable but hopeful soul on the caustic, fear-riddled, and religiously inspired messages about sex that have fed our shame.
In turn, Bolz-Weber offers no simple amendments or polite compromises, because the stakes are too high--and our souls and our bodies are worth too much. Instead, this tattooed, swearing, modern-day pastor calls for a new reformation. She urges us to take antiquated, sexist ideas about sex, gender, and our bodies and "burn them the f*ck down and start all over."
This is a journey of holy resistance. Along the way, as antidotes to shame, heresy, and all-too-familiar injustice, Bolz-Weber dispenses grace, freedom, and courage. She shares stories, poetry, and scripture, cultivating resilient hope and audacious love rooted in good news that is "powerful enough, transgressive enough, and beautiful enough to heal not only the ones who have been hurt but also those who have done the hurting."
In Bolz-Weber's most personal, bracingly honest book yet, she shares intimately about her life, with her trademark blend of vulnerability, humor, and candor. If you've been mistreated, confused, angered, and/or wounded by the shaming sexual messages so prevalent in religion, this one is for you.

Author Notes

Nadia Bolz-Weber is a Luthern minister and the founding pastor of House for All Sinners and Saints in Denver, Colorado. She is a recovering alcoholic and a former stand-up comedian. Nadia is also a married mother of two. Her husband is a Luthern minister at a different congregation in Colorado. She is the author of the New York Times best-selling memoir Pastrix. Nadia has been featured on CNN and in the Washing­ton Post, Bitch Magazine, NPR's Morning Edition, More Magazine, and the Daily Beast. Her work includes Salvation on the Small Screen?, The Hyphenateds, and her 2015 bestseller, Accidental Saints.

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Publisher's Weekly Review

In this mix of memoir and call to action, Bolz-Weber (Pastrix) draws on experiences from friends, congregants, and her life growing up evangelical in order to offer a new framework for Christian teachings about sex, gender, and relationships. A former pastor, Bolz-Weber expertly sets her critique of Christianity's current teachings and her own ideas for reform in dialogue with biblical texts, early and recent Christian thinkers, and evangelical cultural models for femininity, masculinity, and sex. Her aim is to retrieve what's of value from within Christianity-and posit what is missing and needed-in order to create a more forgiving, empowering community that encompasses the many Christians (and non-Christians) who find themselves left out in the cold by the church. Bolz-Weber proposes dropping the abstinence-only approach by instead using concern as the criteria for sexual health. By this standard, a devout Christian with concern for his or her spiritual health would abstain from sex before marriage. More concern for healthy sexuality from Christian teachers would also, in Bolz-Weber's estimation, allow room for rethinking "sexual ethics, gender, orientation, extramarital sex, and the inherent goodness of the human body." The book is aimed at multiple readerships: disaffected and alienated Christians; ex-Christians who left the church due to restrictive, problematic, and heteronormative teachings; and the still-committed Christians who struggle with those same teachings. Accessibly written, Bolz-Weber's powerful book effectively presents sexually liberating and inclusive guidance within a Christian context. (Jan.) © Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.

Booklist Review

Bolz-Weber, author of Pastrix (2013) and Accidental Saints: Finding God in All the Wrong People (2015), continues her examination of Christianity, in both professional and personal contexts. Often talking with parishioners from Denver's House for All Saints and Sinners, the church she founded, Bolz-Weber focuses here on sexuality and the ways the church has created fear and shame in both straight and LBGTQ communities. A former stand-up comedian and a recovering alcoholic, Bolz-Weber cuts to the chase in vivid language that doesn't shy away from the occasional swear word. She speaks with a couple disappointed with sex, after waiting for marriage as they had been instructed to do from childhood; with a woman who spent years hiding that she was gay; a transgender individual whose face and figure "do not allow her to pass." But she's not only reaching out, she's also looking inward, remembering her own relationships most personally, her abortion. Honest and witty, Bolz-Weber is also skilled at reimagining Bible stories and passages (her take on Song of Songs is especially enlightening). This kicks shame in the butt.--Ilene Cooper Copyright 2018 Booklist

Table of Contents

Note to Readersp. ix
Invocationp. 1
1 Sanctusp. 15
Creation I The First Blessingp. 29
2 Build-a-Bearp. 31
"How Feminine Am I?"
Quiz from the Christian Charm Workbookp. 47
3 This Shit Is Freep. 49
Hooked on Colfaxp. 61
4 Double-Stranded Helixp. 63
Cindy's Biblep. 75
Creation II They Belonged to Each Otherp. 77
5 Holy Resistancep. 79
Denver vs. Nashvillep. 94
6 The Rocking Chairp. 99
How Abortion Got on the Evangelical Political Agenda: A Historyp. 115
7 The Fireplacep. 119
Creation III Who Told You You Were Naked?p. 131
8 I Smell Sex and Candyp. 135
Creation IV Flesh Made Wordp. 149
9 Terminal Agitationp. 151
And on the Last Day (of Reparative Therapy): A Poem by Pádraig Ó Tuamap. 160
10 There Is Also Magicp. 163
11 Hi, My Name Is ...p. 177
12 Benedictionp. 185
Acknowledgmentsp. 199
Resourcesp. 201