Introduction: You can do it! -- You can't do it all, but you can do what matters most -- You're more than a survivor -- Then and now -- Got guilt? -- Three mistakes you don't want to make -- What's birth order got to do with it? -- Where's your support? -- Pressed for time and money? -- The opposite-sex fix -- The ABCs, inside out -- It's the relationship, not the rules -- Love and limits -- "Will you stop loving me, too?" -- "Are you going to die and leave me alone?" -- "Who is my daddy/mommy?" -- Ready or not? -- It's all about time -- Your legacy.