My uneasy journey into the twilight -- Confronting a new family passage. The last transition of our first family ; Acknowledging our parents' aging -- Return to the house of childhood : adapting old roles and relationships, confronting old conflicts. Who's taking care of mom? : adapting roles and relationships to take on parent care ; Dad still loves you more : revived rivalries, chances for resolution ; "We weren't your Norman Rockwell family" : holding the ideal up to reality ; Who put you in charge? : adjusting to new decision makers -- Slipping away : making peace with change and loss. Here yet not here : the dynamics of dementia ; Gathering at the deathbed : decisions, acceptance, forgiveness, loss -- Reinventing the family for our generation : sharing stories, passing on legacies. Mourning and moving on : alone and together ; Inheritance : what our parents have left us, what we carry away ; The sibling generation : sustaining the family connection into the future.