You must be present to win : pay attention! : which details you include will determine the success of your memoir -- Galileo in Wal-mart : don't let all the "stuff" of life's overcrowded aisles distract you; focus that lens to sharpen your tale -- Having sex with Roger : get a firm grip on that first draft with your eyes open, the lights on, and a notebook by the bed -- The Barbie-bodied book : your writing math must add up to a figure so compelling the reader can't take his eyes off your argument -- Life in the morgue : editing is the perfect murder, though the darlings you kill can live to see another day.