Part I. The anti-adolescent resilience conspiracy. A generational view of teen suffering : the kids are not all right -- Contemporary teen culture : their world is not all right -- Teen brains : their minds are not all right (but that's how it should be) -- US : their parents are not doing so great either -- Part II. Strategies and tactics. Resilience and its seven strategies : chairs have four legs; soldiers and teens need seven -- Tactics : the day-to-day of how it works (and how it never works) -- Part III. Common resilience parenting challenges : the do's and don'ts. Behavior issues -- School issues -- Sex and dating issues -- Social issues.