Moving forward from trauma, addiction, or both -- Starting out -- "Things turn out okay" - David's experience -- It's medical - you're not crazy, lazy, or bad -- How do people change? -- The world is your school -- Listen to your behavior -- Wish versus reality -- Find your way -- Possible selves -- The language of trauma and addiction -- Safe coping skills -- Social pain -- True self-compassion -- Why trauma and addiction go together -- Forgiving yourself -- Body and biology -- Getting to a calm place : the skill of grounding -- The culture of silence -- Motivation : leverage one problem to help another -- Tip the scales recovery plan -- Every child is a detective -- How to sruvive a relapse -- See the link -- Practice -- Identity : how you view yourself -- Perception : how others view you -- The decision to grow -- Dark feelings : rage, hatred, revenge, bitterness -- Imagination -- Create a healing image -- Find a good counselor -- Two types of trauma counseling -- What the wounded can give back -- "We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars"

Appendix A. How others can help - family, friends, partners, sponsore, counselors -- Appendix B. Resources -- Appendix C. Excessive behavior scale -- Appendix D. Brief quiz on trauma and addiction : knowledge is power.