Introduction: You're a grandfamily now -- Ready or not, you're raising your grandchildren. A family reinvented: who grandfamilies are--and how we got here ; From shock to joy--and everything in between ; Let's get real: strategies for dealing with the middle generation -- Adjusting to the new normal. "Why aren't my birth parents raising me?" ; Responding to problem behaviors ; Challenges at school--and where to find help -- Legal and financial resources: using them to your grandfamily's advantage. Child custody issues ; Grandfamily finance -- Healthy in body and mind. Understanding children's behavioral disorders and mental health ; Raising a healthy child ; Staying healthy yourself -- Conclusion: When you are the best alternative.