Preface -- Part I: Who am I? Implicit egoism -- Amazing power of attention -- There is more to hearing that meets the ears -- How do we know ourselves? -- Dual processing: one brain, two minds? -- Making New Year's resolutions that last -- Powers and perils of intuition -- Fearing the right things -- We knew it all along -- Judging other and judging ourselves -- Behavioral confirmation: getting what we expect -- How do I love me? Let me count the ways -- Part II: Who are we? The science of humility -- When birth order matters -- Cardiac arrest and the conscious experience of death -- Do people repress -- or vividly remember -- traumatic events? -- When fear of losing steals our chances of winning -- How we polarize, and what we can do about it -- Our differences seize our attention, define our identity, and sometimes deceive us -- Psychology of division -- Social psychology of dissent -- Overconfidence phenomenon -- Why is everyone else having more fun? -- Social facilitation: the energizing presence of others -- Happy science of micro-friendships -- How to make and sustain friendships -- Narcissism: the grandiose self -- Part III: What in the world? How nature and nurture form us -- Wonder of walking (and singing): synchronized spirits -- Wise interventions can change lives -- Failure and flourishing -- Death is terrifying to contemplate, except for those who are dying -- Do places with more immigrants exhibit greater acceptance or greater fear of immigrants? -- Implicit bias is real. Can training programs decrease it? -- How politics changes politicians -- Power of confirmation bias and the credibility of belief -- Friends versus phones -- Wealth, well-being, and generosity -- Mere exposure effect: familiarity breeds content -- Do replication failures discredit psychological science?