Acknowledgments -- Preface -- Introduction -- Part I : The personal and philosophy -- What are narratives but the stories we tell? -- Internalizing transphobia -- The leap of faith -- Inaction is not a neutral decision -- The paradox of transition -- Your gender doesn't care what you think of it -- The illusion of responsibility -- Part II : Context and history -- Sure, gender is a social construct, but so is sex -- Some historical context and the DSM -- Part III : Mental health -- Things could get worse before they get better and that doesn't necessarily mean you're cis -- Grief and how to feel your feelings -- Depression and anxiety become habits -- Being trans in a transphobic society can be traumatic -- The common intersection between trans and neurodivergent identities -- Seeking more help -- Part IV : Interpersonal -- Labels: what are they good for? -- On being a nonbinary person -- On being a trans woman -- On being a trans man -- Relationships -- The vulnerability of sex -- How to deal with people who make your gender a big deal -- Becoming a representative for the trans community -- A hopeful end -- More resources -- Notes -- Index.