Introduction: Running with their eyes closed -- Why are our kids "at risk"? : life inside the pressure cooker -- Name it to tame it : unpacking the deep roots of parental anxiety -- The power of mattering : untangling self-worth from achievement -- You first : your child's mattering resets on your own -- Taking the kettle off the heat : confronting grind culture -- Envy : coping with hyper-competition -- Greater expectations : adding value to the world protects them -- The ripple effect : unlocking mattering all around you -- Acknowledgments -- Resources: Taking action: at home ; Taking action: for educators ; Taking action: community efforts ; Recommended resources ; Book discussion questions.