What causes relationship sabotage? -- The process of healing -- Insecurity : "Will you love me forever?" -- Needing to control : "I run the show" -- Fear of intimacy : "I need you, but not that close" -- Needing to win : "I dare you to challenge me" -- Pessimism : "If you don't expect anything, you won't be disappointed" -- Needing to be center stage : "Pay attention to me" -- Addictions : "I've got to have that" -- Martyrdom : "Maybe it'll be my turn someday" -- Defensiveness : "It's not my fault!" -- Trust breakers : "I never really agreed to that" -- Revisiting the seven steps to recovery -- Troubleshooting : questions and answers.