Foreword / by Autumn Brown -- Author's note -- Introduction -- Life before death -- Home (alone): What do I need? How do I even know? -- Identifying your needs -- Making your bed your lover, and other tools for navigating hell -- Setting up your grief support -- Co-pilots: making your friends your spouse -- Special requests: how to ask for help -- When to Tinder, when not to: dating while grieving -- Dating standards: the new frontier -- Wills and bills and thrills, oh my! -- Building an after-death checklist -- What to expect when your expecting (grief) -- Understanding trauma -- Life after death -- When the free flow of cake stops: relationships after loss -- Setting new boundaries -- Hello? Is this over yet? -- Extra support: grief groups and grief counselors -- But actually, pray: spiritual practice as life partner -- How to pray -- Compounded grief: fire and brimstone -- Stabilizing your nervous system in a pinch -- The future -- Forget cake, make rituals: memorializing on your terms -- Anniversaries -- How to build a ritual -- If there is such a thing as "completed grief", this is it -- How to be the grief support -- Life after death: finding joy.